Discover the patterns shaping your relationship—and what to do next.
One partner reaches for closeness while the other backs away, and each move tends to bring on more of the other. The same loop often shows up around conflict, money, or parenting too.
One partner carries more of the responsibility for connection, and the more one does, the less the other tends to. It can feel like a loop neither of you chose.
Disappointments may be piling up instead of getting repaired, so a small moment can carry the weight of many earlier ones.
Connection may be fading quietly, without a big fight: you stop reaching, and things look peaceful while feeling less alive.
Being open about desire or insecurity may feel risky right now. The question underneath is often: can I show you this and still feel safe with you?
Past hurt or broken trust may still be in the room, so the present relationship carries an older injury.
It may not feel free to say what you want, don't want, or feel disappointed about. Agreement on the surface can hide what one of you actually wants.
Twelve questions about intimacy between you and your partner, one at a time. About two minutes. Answer for how things usually are, and skip anything you'd rather not answer. At the end you see your Vitality Score and the pattern your answers point to.
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Your sexual relationship vitality